Lauren Graham has announced that her relationship with longtime partner Peter Krause came to an end because of fundamental differences.
“Gilmore Girls” actress Lauren Graham revealed that after 11 years together, she and cinematographer Peter Krause might have not known each other as well as they thought they did.
“There are some positives and negatives about that,” Graham told People. “Positive of course is we knew each other for a really long time, and there’s a negative too in the sense that when you come into a relationship as people who are 40-years-old, you should be asking the questions that people in their 40s need to ask.”
Lauren Graham and Peter Krause did not talk about their goals and values during the beginning of their relationship.
The 55-year-old man said, “I didn’t ask some important questions about what their values were and what kind of life they wanted to have. And then we started catching up with it.”
For instance, during a 2017 interview with Good Housekeeping, the actress revealed that when they first started dating they primarily talked about their interests rather than their individual beliefs. This was intentional because when you’re in a relationship, it’s important to talk about different things as opposed to what you’re used to talking about.
“We were so excited to be with each other that we couldn’t stop talking,” the producer said. “We also talked about a lot of different things, like the world, books and family.” The producer then added that their life was simpler.
The former couple quietly went their separate ways in the past, though they announced the news in June. And Graham has found herself stronger than ever as a single woman in her 50s.
The actress said, “I knew I was resilient before because I just always have been. You take your knocks and don’t complain.” She explained that she was always raised this way.
In the wake of her breakup, Graham leaned into her work and started writing her new memoir “Have I Told You This Already? Stories I Don’t Want to Forget to Remember”, which is set to be released on November 15th.
“For me, somewhere in that was a year where I just wasn’t going to let it flatten me,” she explained. “I was like, ‘OK, I have all these good things around me and all these great times.’ Thank goodness I have these outlets and these stories.”
Graham helped Krause raise his 20-year old son Roman, which she says has been the hardest part about their decades-long friendship ending.
“No matter what, I still have moments. I’m still connected with his child, and so that’s something. And yes, I’m in a better place now, but it’s still just sad to me. It’s just sad altogether.”
